Practical tips using TA to improve communication - Transactional Analysis is helpful in personal development

Human-authored/written by Anne Brookes, Canalside Life Coach

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TA improves communication

Communication Strategies - Practical tips using TA to improve communication; adopting active listening, "I" statements

Example: Avoid "Parent" language that criticizes or belittles

Personal Growth: TA can help you achieve self-awareness and personal development 🪜

Healthy Relationships: TA can strengthen relationships with family, friends, and colleagues

Life Scripts in TA ✍

Life Scripts: These have an impact on our choices and behaviour

Example: Someone with a "Loser" script might sabotage their own success

Identify your Life Script: TA has tools for recognizing and understanding your own script 🆔

"Re-scripting": Changing Your Script to rewrite limiting life scripts and adopt empowering beliefs

Understanding the PAC model in TA:

The Three modes of operation or Egos: Parent, Adult, and Child ego states

🟨 Parent Ego State - behaviours, beliefs, values, desires, identities, thoughts and feelings taken on (not always wittingly)from parents or parent figures

🟩 Adult Ego State - behaviours, thoughts and feelings which are direct responses to the here and now

🟦 Child Ego State - behaviours, beliefs, values, deisres, identities, thoughts and feelings developed in and replayed from childhood

Transactional Patterns in TA:

Complementary Transactions: complementary transactions maintain the status quo

Example: A teacher (Parent) asks a student (Child) a question, and the student (Child) answers (Child)

Crossed Transactions: 😕 create confusion and conflict

Example: A manager (Parent) asks an employee (Adult) a question, but the employee (Child) responds with sarcasm (Child)

Ulterior Transactions: Uncover hidden agendas and manipulative communication patterns

Example: Someone offers a compliment (Parent) but expects something in return (Child)

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Frothy pink July

Written/Human authored by Anne Brookes

At last the honeysuckle

grapples through the tree

Reaching skyward

beside the frothy pink of

the flowering almond

Chicks are chirping on the rooftops

watching the parent sparrows below

nipping at seeds in the feeder

To and fro

to and fro

to and fro

Do you have flowers in your life? in a pot by the sink? in a window box? on a balcony? in a garden? in a park? in a painting? on a screensaver? as your mobile wallpaper? in your mind when you close your eyes? the scent in the summer beguiles us along with the bees...

Reflect, boost the positives and achieve your outcomes

I take a pause on the garden bench

Written/Human authored by Anne Brookes

It's the end of May, just about Bank Holiday Monday time...and predictably it's cool and breezy, with no sun here in Kings Norton for the last 3 days.

The honeysuckle is hovering in the air, the spurt of growth from a bit of heat a week ago, yet the flowers are not quite ready to come out and perfume the air, attracting bees - and me, as I take a pause on the garden bench.

I will wait for the warmth and the sun.

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A little known response to stress

Written/Human authored by Anne Brookes

Through human connection, we can have personal resilience - trust that you can handle inevitable stress and you can aim for meaning in your life.

🟢 A little known response to stress is that a neuro-hormone called oxytocin is released.  

It protects the cardiovascular system, is anti-inflammatory, helps blood vessels relax and cells in the body to heal and strengthen.  

It is enhanced by social contact and social support - the more we reach out, the more oxytocin is released.

🟡 This amazing hormone fine-tunes our brain's SOCIAL instincts, priming us to do things that strengthen social relationships, enhancing empathy - we notice when someone else is struggling, even as we feel stressed about (possibly) the same external factors.

We become willing to help and support people we care about.  

It also motivates us to seek support, to tell someone how we feel.

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Reference: How to make stress your friend | Kelly McGonigal, TED talk